Leaving Abusive Relationships Pt 3

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Mistakes are new opportunities to make your life better. If you learned the lesson once you don’t need to repeat it again. There are plenty of nice women and men to choose from, just understand just because they are nice, and good doesn’t always mean they are the right person for you. Many times we make the mistake of believing,just because they are nice they make good partners.

This is not always true. The nicest men and woman can also have many issues they have never resolved, nor ever choose to resolve. Some people believe in change, and some are very happy to stay right where they are participating in destructive behavior patterns using drugs, alcohol, and being abusive to others emotionally, spiritually, and physically.

While this may be shocking to you, some people choose to live that way whether we like it or not. So this is good to know that you can not always save people, or change them or fix them. Most of them will tell you right off the bat they do not want to change, and whether you want to rescue or help them, you will fail, because they want to fail. That sounds messed up, but every one has the free will and choice to live as they choose.

So ask yourself if this person is the person you want to be partnered with, or whether you would like to be in a relationship that is continually growing together instead of apart. Healthy relationships work on issues, and move through all the darkness of life and enter into the light evolving spiritually. They are constantly walking in harmony, unity, and peace. They are couples choosing to break the mold of our society choosing not to follow generation after generation of addictions and abuse. Walk in love instead of hate. Walk by faith and not by sight. Never allow fear to stop you from having what you really want in life.

In your heart you already know the answer. The signs have been there from day one. You don’t need someone to tell you what is right or wrong in your life. You may think you need someone to validate you, or counsel you, but you have the answer in your heart. You know if this woman or man is good for you. How do they make you feel? Are you drained and tired all of the time? Are you hating life? Are you miserable? These are all signs of an unhealthy relationship. If they make you feel sick mentally and emotionally this is not a good sign.

You may fall down quite a few times before you master your life lessons. You may even go through strong emotions, cry, feel depressed, grieve, and than one day it is easy to let go once you have learned you don’t need to struggle in life.

Walking in faith is scary, especially when you can’t see what will happen next. It some times is the best choice to leave and make a new path, and it is okay. On the other hand, there are just as many times that if you are in a positive relationship to stay and work out things.

Abusive addictive relationships are not the same thing as a relationship built on mutual respect, unconditional love, and purity. Learn the difference. Master the lessons, and break the chains that hold you back from really living life.

All rights reserved Hattiemattiemae Spiritweaver August 19, 2013