Confrontation or Criticism?

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Confrontation or Criticism? We don’t always think about this question when we receive information from someone else.

Confrontation is when someone draws to your attention what might being hindering you in life or relationships. The person respects you as a person, is honest, direct, and has your best interest at heart.

They may point out where you need to make improvements such as correcting parenting skills, communication skills, presentation skills, making your coping skills stronger. Monitoring stress, regulating emotions, and being aware socially, mentally, emotionally, spiritually.

Where ever you’re at in life you will have teachers, professors, parents, government officials, spiritual teachers, ministers, priests, nuns, or what ever other title they may wear.

Confrontation is necessary for inner growth and learning to be productive in society. How much force is applied determines the outcome.

Usually we are generally an Authoritative or Authoritarian.

Authoritarians are usually more strict, harsh, rigid, overbearing, and forceful.

Authoritative’s are empowering, strict, loving, compassionate, understanding, and good listeners.

At the same time, they still will hold you accountable to what you need to know and what you need to learn.

When you can tell the difference between the two types of leaders in our world, you will understand what type of leader or teacher works best for you.

And you will also know what type of partner is best for you. If you’re Authoritarian and you’re partner is Authoritative, it doesn’t always work out to well.

Criticism is usually when someone fault finds, nay says, nit picks at everything in another persons life. Every word is negative and casts them down. The person in question can never do anything right whether they are making the right choices or not.

It gets out of control and can become very abusive.

Learn to confront and be respectful of other people instead of criticizing them. Learn how to communicate without being to forceful, demanding, and controlling.

Allow others to make mistakes. Sometimes when you stay silent and allow people to learn by trial and error they do much better than standing their calling them out on every wrong move they make.

Be patient and give them time to learn a new skill or learn. We don’t learn anything over night and know how to automatically be a huge success.

When people confront you take it lightly, not personally as an attack. When we listen to others and stay neutral even if we feel uncomfortable with what someone has said, doesn’t mean we’re bad. It means we’re learning and there is room for improvement.

Gain the wisdom by listening and applying versus taking as a personal attack and getting defensive. When we take it personally we just produce fear and become anxious.

We end up getting angry because we don’t like hearing we need to improve or change. Still it is necessary if we want healthy and loving relationships or to be successful on a job.